It’s the motivation to ‘get up and go’ which segregates failure and success that seems surprise most people these days. I myself am always surprised to hear when somebody has a dream of living the high-life, but instead of spending a couple of minutes fixing some coursework or revising, they spend yet another hour of their life in front of the television or some sort of social network site pretending to socialise with so-called friends they probably haven’t spoken to in person for months.
First of all, I should explain that I don’t have an issue with people who are less motivated, as not only is it their life for them to lead, however, it will also free up opportunities for the rest of us. It’s a win-win situation. What surprises me, are the people who will spend hours dreaming of what they want to do as a career, with ideas that are achievable, but don’t take the first step towards them. Instead, they turn their backs and hide away. They don’t even try, which is quite sad actually because meanwhile, the people who were once at the same level as them, have considerably increased their potential making it almost impossible to catch up with them.
You could perhaps call post this a little bit of a rant, or you could maybe call this the truth. It’s up to you. Personally, I’d settle with both. The article follows as I listened into a conversation on the train home from London this afternoon. I had been invited to my first-choice university for the day, deep in the heart of the capital. The conversation however, was between two older couples. They sat at the table opposite the isle, mainly discussing the dreadful weather and top restaurants to dine at. Listening to them was entertaining, their voices were highly upperclass. The stereotype of the British accent was sitting just a few feet to my right. Incredible. I wasn’t paying an awful lot of attention to what these folks were jabbering on about, as I was reading through my notes. It was when they began talking about the younger generation that I put my paperwork down on the table and took great interest.
They were reflecting on their past to begin with, discussing how they had to work hard for themselves so that they could live the lifestyle they lead now. Of course, going by the way they spoke and the mannerisms across the table, it certainly wasn’t a cheap one. After noticing my interest in their conversation, they asked what I had done in London. I explained that I had been invited down to my first choice university to meet the lecturers, and they were intrigued. I continued, telling them a little more about the specifics, to which they were shocked. They could hardly believe that I travelled all that way by myself for what probably seemed like a few hours. I asked why, to which they responded saying that all the young adults they know have thrown away opportunities.
“You can see that these people have an open door to succeed, yet it horrifies me to see them shut the door and walk away”
I explained that I myself see this, but also pointed out that it opens up wider opportunities for the more motivated people. The conversation grew deeper and deeper, with the business man sitting opposite me slowly getting more and more involved himself. He looked a little worried, working his way through a pile of documents with a highlighter pen. The question popped up, asking him what he was doing.
“These are my exam notes. I’m not doing very well in this job, so I’m working for a promotion and a transfer to boost my credentials”
He was going to be sitting an exam in two months time, a second chance to improve his career. Gutted that he didn’t for-see it, to work harder earlier on.
It gets back to the whole motivation idea. A lot of young people now, can’t be bothered to chase opportunities and you can see them throwing away their potential succession. Could you imagine going to a college reunion, where most of your old classmates who dreamt of reaching the stars work along the high street? It’s as they sit asking questions such as ‘where did it all go wrong?’ that you think, actually, it was when you gave up on life.
I recently purchased a book titled ‘Stop Talking Start Doing – A kick in the pants in six parts’, and while it was set out to be about having the motivation to start your own business, it ended up more general and open. It takes you, the reader, out of your comfort zone, taking you to new fears. It was what helped me realise that the only way I am going to reach my dream, is by actually getting off my arse and doing something.